Okay, I knew when I went to the movies this weekend that adoption was part of the SATC storyline, and they didn’t make a huge deal out of it (except of course that – wonder of wonder, miracle of miracles – Charlotte gets pregnant once they stop trying!) but it was there.

I’ve also become obsessed with watching old episodes of “Diff’rent Strokes” on BET on the weekends. Yes, it’s outdated and they say some crazy things, but darned if that Gary Coleman wasn’t a cute little kid. On Saturday’s episode, the kids haven’t been adopted yet by Mr. Drummond and the SW comes by. She’s not very nice and says that “Black kids should stay with black families.” Mr. Drummond tells this story to the housekeeper, Arnold overhears, BIG misunderstanding. Feelings are hurt, misunderstandings are figured out, everyone is happy at the end. There’s a particularly touching scene early in the episode where he tells the boys the SW is coming and that they should say really good things about him so that they can stay. Very classy training them to give the “right answers.” Of course just for good measure they toss in some jokes about how Mr. Drummond will be a great Dad to the boys – especially because of all the money he has! Ah, the inadequacy of bparents that can’t provide for their children because they’re not literally millionaires. But I can’t turn it off cause that little Gary Coleman gets me every time!

This morning, after falling asleep on my couch during The Bachelorette (I know, I know) I fumble with the remote and when I realize I need to go to the bathroom the television Gods land on Sister, Sister. This is that old show where twins Tia and Tamera are separated at birth and placed for adoption – one with a single Dad and one with a single Mom, they reunite years later and hilarity ensues when they all move in together – right. Well usually adoption wasn’t a huge part of the story line (as I recall, not sure I’ve seen that many episodes although I found out I could sing the ENTIRE theme song) but todays episode? Of course was all about the girls wanting to find out about their birthmother. In order to keep things clean and simple though she had passed away so no danger of reunion. They got a name, found out she was an artist and all was well with the world. No more questions, no more curiosity, they had what they needed to know. Easy breezy.

Then there’s the whole Father’s Day deal coming up. I haven’t decided if I’ve got the balls to write the blog that I have to say about that. I’m not super thrilled at how I feel about Father’s Day and how it will be in Cupcake’s life and I’m not at a good enough place to go into it in detail yet. Maybe by THE day. But who knows.

I’m hanging out with Benny next Wednesday. I’ve taken the day off work and we’re spending the whole day at an amusement park. We haven’t hung out in a bit and I’m actually looking forward to it. Except there’s that whole “trainwreck” thing that seems to be looming….if we’re together for an extended amount of time it’s completely possible we’ll talk about work, and he’ll talk about his work and that might include his “trainwreck” friend that just happened to place her child for adoption. Over the phone I was able to hide my reaction to it. He didn’t see me cringe. In person? I don’t know if I can be quite as slick.

Of course the whole “adoption is everywhere” feeling of being strangled by it sometimes isn’t likely helped by my frequenting adoption blogs, adoption forums, and friends that are touched by adoption. So yes, I realize that I bring this upon myself as well.

And then I keep thinking about some of my vent-y posts from last week. And how adoption IS everywhere. How television shows that make money off of unplanned pregnancies, and possibly on subsequent placements, make sure that adoption is everywhere. How business cards “innocently” left on bulletin boards at college campuses make sure that adoption is everywhere. Sure, there are some days when I’m not ready to see adoption anywhere. When adoption, even in a sitcom, may be a little trigger-y for me. But when done right, I think making adoption a part of everyday in a normalized positive way is a good thing. I just still can’t get on board with adoption being everywhere when it means advertising in college health clinics, OBGYN’s offices, and high school counselors offices.